Welcome to the wonderful world of weddings. This is so much more enjoyable than I ever imagined, but has the potential to become as stressful as everyone warned. I took a Bridezilla quiz yesterday. To date I have never thrown a fit in a flower shop or fired a member of the wedding party (groom included). In fact the quiz labeled me a "handler", but I decided my time was better spent not reading the detailed description of my wedding planning style.
Obvious immature breakdowns aside, what I am seeing is that every bride has the potential to become her own version of Bridezilla.
Why? It's all about me. No really, you're the bride, it is all about you. That's what every venue, vendor, and wedding planner will tell you. "It's whatever the bride wants!" "There are only two people at the wedding who matter, the bride and her mother!"
Am I saying this is wrong? Course not. It's normal. It is your day to plan exactly as you want. What I'm saying is that this can be dangerous. When every decision comes down to what you want, all the wedding fluff aside, it's really just selfish. Yes, I have to decide what wedding favors to put on the table, but am I letting this whole mindset (of figuring out exactly what I want and finding a way to make it happen) take over my emotions? Seems like it's a fine line.
My guess is that the timelines and details and cost and accompanying stress are enough to push the internal Bridezilla over the edge. Those things are more obvious though (my fiance does a good job of pulling me back from the world of stress to the world of reality).
What worries me more is the internal mindset affecting other decisions/emotions/rationalizations.
I am the bride. Blah blah blah. Subtle but I think powerful.
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